TGIF! What are your weekend plans? ♥

 Hello Friends! Happy Friday (TGIF!!)

I promise I'll be a little more positive today than I was in my last post : )

I truly appreciate your support and those who reached out to me to let me know they fully understand what I was feeling and that I'm not alone (or crazy!). I guess I'm just a person that really hates change and doesn't feel like myself when faced with it. This world can be a scary place to navigate sometimes.  I have to focus on the GOOD and I will continue to do that. 

Pinky promise! 

Moving on...♥

I hope you all had a nice week.  The weather was LOVELY here this week and the sun is still shining today which makes me very happy.  I have been taking walks, reading my book, and working on my cross stitch. All good things! I've heard we are looking at a beautiful weekend also, so I'll take that too. Rob mentioned going out to eat on Saturday night (I think he can tell I need it) so I'll be getting myself dressed up and out of the house for a few hours, which I'm looking forward to.  Maybe I'll even have a cocktail - party girl that I am : ) 

I just stepped out on my back deck to get a bit of fresh air in my lungs.  I was drinking my coffee and listening to our windchimes.  It was so peaceful.  Those are the little things that I cling to, the things that make my heart happy.  

*Sidenote - Have you ever put cool whip in your coffee? 

 It's amazing and I highly recommend it ♥

Saturday night John has a "gig" with his band that he's very excited for.  The last one a few weeks ago at the art festival went extremely well!  With every performance comes a little more confidence, but more so - he's having so much fun doing do it.  

I'm so happy and proud of him for following his dreams.  He's been playing music since he was 3 years old.  Taking lessons and playing all through school.  And now he's got his own band and he's preforming for audiences on his own, playing the music he wants to play.  It's what he's always hoped for.  

As parents it's so rewarding to see your kids doing what they love.  

Amazing ♥

If this kid only knew...

I'll keep you posted on how it all goes.  It's one of those "open mic" type things.  His band gets 10 minutes and 3 songs. I'll see if I can get some pictures to post next week 🤞

So, other than dinner Saturday night, I'll be here - puttering around the neighborhood.  I spotted this wild forsythia on my walk the other day.  I don't have a forsythia bush in my yard and I was very tempted to run home and get my clippers.  Wouldn't a bunch of these look pretty on my kitchen table? 

Will I return with clippers in my pocket? We shall see ...:) 

Other things on my weekend agenda:

Laundry (of course!)

Clean out 1 closet and fill a donation bag

Bake a pie.  I've had a craving for a custard pie, one of my mom's favorites. 

Rob mentioned a ride to beach on Sunday after church for a walk, which I would love

Write out 2 cards and take them to the post office

Allow myself to rest 

We also want to see the new Michael Jackson movie, but chances are I won't get there this weekend.  Maybe next week.  I'm also starting to think about flowers, but it's a bit too early to plant.  In time, in time.  It's always nice to have things to look forward to, right?!

This is literally me every day....🡣

I love it! ♥

I especially love how it's not even acknowledged he's drinking out of the coffee pot!  

I feel seen!! 

I hope you all have a happy and restful weekend! I hope you get some sunshine your way. 

Enjoy it! ♥

Nostalgia - a blessing and a curse ♥

 Hello Dear Friends! Happy new week! ♥

Spring has officially sprung around here.  Every tree and bush has buds on it.  Flowers are blooming, grass is green, and the birds can't sing loud enough.  And even though the nights are still a bit chilly, we are certainly past the "hump" and well on our way to warm sunny days.  Horary! Rob has started cleaning up the yard and laying down mulch.  That's a sure sign of the changing season.  

And while I couldn't be happier to kiss winter goodbye, last week I was feeling a bit down.  Ever since Easter I've felt a sort of sadness come over me.  I know much of it has to do with my mom and memories of her, but it's more than that.  

I am a very nostalgic person, and sometimes I tend to go down rabbit holes of longing for the past in ways that really make me sad. I get into a funk and then have to work hard to pull myself out of it.  This is nothing new for me.  It hits me at different times, triggered by I don't know what. But here I am.    

Nostalgia (according to Google) by definition is this: 

Feeling nostalgic means experiencing a sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past, often triggered by memories of childhood, familiar places, or close relationships. It is a "bittersweet" emotion, blending fondness for happy memories with a slight sadness or longing for times that cannot be relived. 

Google also says: 

• Bittersweet Feeling: It often involves feeling happy about a memory while simultaneously feeling sad that it is over.
• Triggered by Memory: It is usually sparked by sensory triggers like music, smells, old photos, or visiting familiar places.
• Psychological Benefits:
   While sometimes seen as sadness, it actually strengthens personal identity, enhances social connectivity, and provides comfort during times of loneliness or stress.
   

I think that just about sums it up don't you?  I'm sure we've all had this feeling.  Like, if I look at pictures of John as a baby, I feel happy and sad at the same time.  I understand all this.  The hard part for me is to focus on the happy, and not so much on the sad. 

For example...

The other day I was looking at pictures (on this very blog mind you) of the house I used to live in. How happy I was there.  How cozy it was.  The cute twinkle lights I had around the kitchen windows and hanging geraniums I used to have on my deck every summer.  Those things made me happy and now that they are gone, I'm sad.  I will never see that window or have those geraniums ever again. 

NOT to say I'm not happy now, but you get the idea.  

Time goes on and things change.  Family changes.  Friends change.  People get older or pass away and some things just aren't what they used to be. Maybe it's just the passing of time that gets me. I'm getting older and the years are passing at a faster rate.  Looking at a picture I think, that's a time in my life that will never be again.  But I'm still happy it happened. And what happened to that sweater?  I really liked that sweater. See....happy/sad/happy/sad.  It's a blessing and a curse.  

TikTok has been a killer for me.  I keep seeing those aesthetic videos of "what life was like back then" type of stuff. I'm obsessed with watching them, but at the same time they make me so sad (especially the Christmas ones!).  

I watched one this morning...it was all about what shopping malls were like in the 1980's & 90's.  Bustling, lively, and fun! Who didn't spend their weekends at the mall?!  And now they are slowly disappearing.  Some are abandoned. Why do I even care? And why would that make me sad?  And have you heard that QVC has declared bankruptcy?! I've spent the last 40 years watching QVC.  Not that I've even ordered much from it over the years, but I do enjoy watching it, and now it might disappear...just like the malls.  

I was food shopping last week there was a sign posted at the cashier that said no more pennies.  Change will be either rounded up or down the nearest 5 cents.  What is going on?  This is me resisting change and progress.  Is it progress?  Am I over thinking?  I have been very negative lately about a lot of big things and I think it's just spilling over into the little daily things.  

Ok, so maybe I just need more hobbies? Get out more, Danielle.  

Get a grip on reality! I know, I will ♥

Thank you (if you are still reading this!!) for listening to my rant.  I don't even know what this post is?!  I think I just needed to get all of that out and you know what? I do feel better!  Maybe it's not so unusual to be sad for the past and maybe I'm not the only one who gets down about these things.  If you've ever felt this way for no particular reason, then I feel you! :)  

I will end this post with a lovely picture of my hot chocolate I got on Saturday morning when I met my friend Julie at a cozy bakery for a wonderful catch up!  We hadn't seen each other in ages and had the best time talking.  It was great therapy for me.  Her boys and John have been friends since kindergarten, so we've done the whole "growing up" thing together.  It all happened in a blink of my eye.  

So now that I've been writing all this and thinking about it, I realize my nostalgia is a blessing and curse.  Yes, I do get sad when I long for the past and things in my life that are no longer, yet I'm so very happy and grateful that I was able to have those things.  And who know what more there is to come in life.  By the grace of God I pray for blessings.  

This is life.  And it's good ♥

Love you all!  Have a great day! xx

PS I promise you I haven't become unhinged.  I'm hanging on nice and tight.  I'll be back in a day or so more like myself - with lots of Lucy, baked goods, and candles - the usual.  Now I'm off to drink a much needed coffee and get some work done.  Tonight Rob and I will walk the neighborhood after dinner, I'll get into bed with my book and then get a good night's sleep.  I'm really looking forward to that.  

Classic Chocolate Cake (1943 recipe:) ♥

Happy Thursday Friends! ♥

As you can see by the title of this post, I made a chocolate cake.  Did I need a chocolate cake? No. Did I make it anyway? Of course.  And guess what? I have never posted a chocolate cake recipe on this blog. I was shocked when I went searching for a recipe on here and couldn't find one. Who am I? I felt I needed to rectify that immediately. 

So actually, I did it for YOU!  :) 

 

I wasn't in the mood for anything too fancy or too rich, just something quick, with simple ingredients to satisfy my sweet tooth.  I don't know about you, but I can't end a meal without something sweet.  And it appears all my Easter candy had dwindled away....oops😳

I remember a recipe I've been saving from a little cookbook that my mother gave me called "Recipes We Grew Up With."  I dug it out of the stack and thankfully had all the ingredients on hand to make it.  

I love that this recipe is from 1943.  Tried and true.  And here I am making it in 2026! 

Can you just imagine the generations of moms and dads that mixed up this batter and served it to their families.  All by hand.  All with love ♥

** I made two small additions**

#1 I added 1/4 cup of cold brewed coffee, just like Ina Garten taught us.  The coffee brings out the chocolate flavor.  And she's right!

#2 I added a tsp (measured with my heart) of vanilla, because every cake needs vanilla. 

The smell of chocolate filled my whole kitchen ♥

I didn't have anything handy to make frosting, so I improvised.  

I had a container of cool whip in the freezer that I let thaw.  I dolloped each slice and you know what???

Perfection! ♥

As I type this post I'm enjoying another piece.  I will probably regret it but not really.  Don't we have hard enough days? We can't be expected to give up cake too?! I promise to do my walk tonight and I'm drinking lots of water too, so see - I'm a health nut! ♥

I'll leave you today with this that I saw on Facebook the other day.  I'm quite sure the moms of 1943 would never in a million years imagine how much I would love to have that stove.  It seems to me that simple wins every time, but that's just me...with one foot in the past trying desperately not to step too deep into the future.  

Have a lovely night friends. It's almost Friday! ♥

Xx

Ordinary Day ♥

 

Hello Friends! ♥

I'm just winding down work for the day and I'd thought I'd pop in to say a quick hello.  

I've made myself a cozy tea to have with my afternoon chocolate fix. 

I know it's not good, but here we are :) 

I've spent most of the day in front of my computer working.  Usually by this time of the day my eyes are starting to cross, and I know it's time to stop. It's been very productive though so I'm happy about that.  It's amazing I can be this productive in sweatpants, but again...here we are. 

John just packed his drum kit into the car and off he went to perform his first "gig" with his band!  They are preforming at an art show at a neighboring town's high school.  He was so excited. They've been practicing for a long time and hopefully this is the first of many opportunities to play for an audience.  

Fingers crossed! ♥

It's been raining all day today.  A little while ago the rain turned to hail (which was fascinating to watch!).  When it finally stopped, the sun came out.  Yup, it's definitely spring!  I stepped outside when John was leaving and I was pleasantly surprised to see that my hydrangea has buds on it.  I've never seen this so soon.  

This is a very good sign ♥

With all the uncertainty and ugliness in the world, I know I can always count on nature.  The bushes will bud, the bunnies will visit us in yard, the birds will sing.  There is comfort in those things.  A constant that will always be there, and I'm grateful.

It's still on the chilly side today (cold and damp due to the rain) but the weatherman says we are headed for a warm up the rest of the week.  60's and maybe even 70 on Friday?!  That's a bit hard to believe but it's nice to think about!  I'm so looking forward to ditching the winter clothes and getting into lighter things.  I'm tired of looking at my same old sweatshirts. 

And that's pretty much it for today. A typical Tuesday over here.  Tonight we are having leftovers from last night which means I don't have to cook tonight and will have minimal dishes to clean.  That is music to my ears!  

I hope you all had a nice day.  Tomorrow is hump day! :) 

Happy Easter! ♥

 

Happy Easter! 🐰

Hello Friends! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend!  Our Sunday was lovely.  We started with church, breakfast, and then a lovely day at my brother-in-law's.  I wore a green sparkly top, my mother's gold watch, stud earrings, and I didn't take one picture!  Not even of the delicious grilled lamb chops my brother-in-law made or the yummy fruit pavlova with fresh whip cream my sister-in-law brought.  The food was divine and it was great day celebrating one of the most important days....we are blessed ♱ 

And even though I didn't take any photos, I must admit it was nice to have my phone tucked away for the day.  I'm trying to be better at that ♥

Easter (as with all holidays) are much different these days.  John is grown so there are no more egg hunts or Easter Bunny surprises anymore. That makes me sad, but there are still games, and laughs, and coffee chats galore.  And I love that.  My mom is not here obviously, and that changes everything about everything.  I'm still trying to get used to living with it.  My mom was the anchor of my family and now that she's gone, I cannot even begin to tell you how things have changed.  People and dynamics change and I've spent way too long trying to understand it.  It's sad, but I must carry on. And I will. 

I ate way too many jellybeans and Cadbury mini eggs and I have not one single regret. When we got home I managed the strength to do a lap around the neighborhood in hopes of digesting before bed.  It kinda-sorta worked, if not physically, then mentally at least :)  

I hopped into my stretchy pants, watched two episodes of Downton Abbey (I'm rewatching again!!!) and off to bed I went ♥ 

I love Easter.  I love springtime.  I'm so happy the flowers are starting to bud.  May good days lay ahead for all of us!

Happy new week, Friends! I'll be back tomorrow! Xx